Overcoming The Loss Of My Mom During Pregnancy
Guest Posting By Marissa Pienaar
In December of 2008, I had nose congestion that caused me to have a really hard time carrying on with my everyday life. The last time I had had this issue was when I was pregnant with my daughter, but I doubted I was pregnant. I had been under a tremendous amount of stress. My mother’s cancer had returned, and things were not going well. She was deteriorating more and more with each day’s passing. At the time my daughter was still nursing, and it had increasingly become unbearable. I thought it best to take a pregnancy test, and was amazed to find out I was pregnant.
I debated whether or not to tell my mother as she was already deeply saddened by the fact that she would not be around for my daughter and her other grandchildren. In the end, I decided it was best to tell her. At the point when I told her she had been unable to communicate well. When I told her, I asked her if she understood and she mustered up more energy than I had seen come from her in weeks and said unequivocally, “Yes!”
Soon after that, sadly, my mother passed away. It was devastating, but knowing that I had this new life in me helped me be strong. I knew I was responsible for my child’s wellbeing, and I did not allow myself to let my emotions overpower me. Stressing while pregnant creates stress for the child too. I made sure that I moved, ate well, and limited my stress. In order to deal with my mother’s passing, I sought help from a counselor, who helped me through my grief.
Despite my congestion at the beginning, it was a textbook pregnancy. I had very little nausea. I listened to my cravings, as I think it was my body’s way of alerting me to my nutritional needs. I mostly craved refried beans and cheese. I always made sure I was active and ate really well. I listened to my body, and rested whenever necessary.
As a teacher, I was really lucky to have my child in the summer. I got to enjoy most of my third trimester while on summer break. In fact, the day my colleagues began working was the day I welcomed my 9 lbs. son! I wanted to share this story with others because many of us go through difficult transitions during pregnancy. It is important to seek help if you need it in managing your emotions, in order to ensure your child is as unaffected as possible.
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